The Importance of the Breasts
By Deva Charu

Most of us have a feeling that there may be more to lovemaking than we have yet experienced.  I have had the luxury of focusing much more time and energy into understanding all of the elements of loving than most, and what I am discovering is that the more I learn, the more there is to know.  The chasm of possibilities for pleasure, aliveness and intimacy grows deeper and deeper with every step I take.  One of the most important things I have come across in my studies, is the importance of the breasts.

Tantra offers that it is in loving the breasts that the vagina truly opens.  Loving the vagina alone, lovely as it may be, may serve to get woman’s attention, excite her, perhaps even bring her to orgasm, however, in many cases, it will not open her.  When you play with, suck on, and simply adore your woman's breasts, on a deeper level you are opening her heart.  The heart for woman is her main sex organ. If her heart is open, she becomes more and more available to love you totally.  Our society is in such confusion around sexuality at the moment that very few women are even aware that they can receive pleasure through any kind of stimulation other than clitoral.  When you focus on the vagina or clitoris alone you are missing out on the depths that lovemaking can offer you.

What does that mean?

When you are in the presence of a woman who has deeply opened to you, you know it. It is obvious on a gut level. An open woman is warm and loving, she is radiant, her vagina is soft and wet, her body is completely available and receptive.  It is one of the masculine’s deepest longings, to meet and love the essence and power of woman.

Why would the breasts open the vagina?

Man and woman are drawn together (beyond the animal urge to procreate)  because, like magnets we each represent a positive and negative (not meaning bad, simply meaning 'receiving') charge.  The penis holding the positive charge and the vagina holding the 'negative' one.  Likewise, each of us holds both the male and female polarities inside of ourselves.  This manifests as the man holding a 'negative' charge at the chest, to balance his positive charge in his genitals, and the woman holding the positive charge in her heart or breasts balancing her negatively charged genitals.  The positive or 'active' charge in each is the key to opening up the genitals and awakening the 'flow' in the loving that is about to begin. 

A less technical way to say all of this is: suck her nipples, with absolute love and adoration for her,and her vagina will be yours.  By sucking her breasts you are essentially opening the flow of energy in her body, activating her negative charge (the vagina) to come to a place of yearning, pulling, longing to be filled by the positive charge of the penis.  Understanding this principle can also open woman up to deeper orgasms...How?  Well, when woman is opened with attention to her breasts and the magnetic poles are ignited she is more sensitive and more awareness has been brought to her vagina, perhaps in a different way than she is used to relating to it...with her in her deepest receptivity, it can become an orgasmic experience simply to take the penis inside of her, without any other kind of stimulation.

When we aim directly for the clitoris in lovemaking we are stimulating a 'negative' pole.  Clitoral orgasm before penetration can even cause the vaginal muscles to tighten and spasm which ultimately makes the woman's opportunity for fully receiving her partner in pleasure in lovemaking much less likely.  When a man penetrates a woman who has just experienced the spasms of clitoral orgasm, due to the tightening of the muscles he is more likely to experience premature ejaculation.  Go figure!

So, I encourage you to get into your sensual laboratory!  Discover uncharted territory, armed with the reassurance that you were right all along, there is more to lovemaking!  Simply having a framework of how the polarities work in the body can create an opportunity for new pleasure to come forward between these two bodies.  Allow yourself to be surprised by sex…… be innocent, and open-hearted.  Pay attention to your body, it never lies.  You may be amazed as you experiment and encounter what it is that really gets you ‘ready’ for love.  Often people find that the very things they counted on most to get them off are the same things that were standing in the way of the orgasmic experience that their body was guiding them towards.