The Trouble with Making Love from Your Mind
By Deva Charu

Tantra is an ancient path of meditation where the focus is on bringing our attention back into our bodies.  So often we are guided in sexual situations by our mind; ideas and patterns that our parents set for us about our sexuality, society and religious perspectives, and even the thoughts we have on what is sexy.  When we make love from this place we are limited because our mind and our thoughts know nothing of love.  Love is a sensation, it can often be triggered by the mind, but it is only by being present to this moment that we can experience love.  That can be tricky to understand, but Tantra makes it simple by offering you practices to get back to what your body is feeling in any given moment.  This can help you to stop paying attention to the endless meanderings and ‘rule making’ of the mind and just enjoy what it is to be alive in this moment….. in this body.
For most of us, our whole lives we have been making love from our brain, so coming back to the body may feel like a challenge.  That is okay.  Below is a simple exercise you can try to re-awaken new-ness and sensitivity in the body.

Forget What You Think You Know

1. Start by imagining what it would be like if you never knew anything about sex. 

• What would it be like to meet another human being of the opposite sex? 
• How would you know that they are different from you? 
• What would it be like to explore them and discover this new body…so different from yours?  

2. Allow yourself to be like a curious child or a wild animal.

• How would they explore this new creature? 
• What does it feel like to see, hear, smell, taste, and touch this being? 

This simple exercise can inspire creativity and innocence in your lovemaking and allow you to revel in the curious discovery of it all.

Let lovemaking be totally un-sexy

Sexy is an idea created by society.  Although ‘being sexy’ can be fun, truthfully it is incredibly limited.  The expanse of our sexuality is HUGE if you allow it to be.  When you are no longer trapped by the thought of having ‘sexy’ sex you can give yourself the freedom to surrender to your body and your senses.

When you begin to listen to the body, lovemaking can take on a whole new texture and new levels of pleasure will be revealed to you.  Trust the body, trust the senses and you will discover your true nature, you are a multi-orgasmic being with absolutely no limitations.  Whoopie!