I was brought up to be ashamed of my sexuality. But it never felt quite right to me. Deep inside, I sensed that my sexual desires and pleasures and my beautiful, sensual body were sacred. But outwardly, I was told, consciously and subconsciously, that my body and my sexuality were bad, something to be conquered and transcended at all costs.
This video is an excerpt from a private advanced group class where I was addressing the kind of evolution and lovemaking that is possible as we keep going deeper into this work and specifically addressing the role of the penis in expanded lovemaking.
Something I hear from a lot of my female clients, is that sex feels like one more thing on their to-do list. They want to enjoy their bodies, their partners, their sexuality… but they don’t know how, and feel like they are missing out.
Although I've been learning to embrace myself more fully, and to allow some of the more sensual and wild aspects of myself to be expressed; there is still a part of me that has been socially conditioned to “put it back in the box” where it is out of sight and won’t scare anyone around me or make them uncomfortable.
Like all humans, I’ve experienced the sting of rejection in deep and painful ways over my lifetime. I feared that I could never be loved if I showed my true self to the world... and so I never felt real intimacy.
Hi! I’m Shivangi, one of the reasons I came to Tantra was that I was dissatisfied with the intimacy I had experienced. And I didn’t know HOW Tantra could possibly help me with that, but I knew that whatever was happening in my life wasn’t working.
Before I came to Tantra, I was pretty much living from the neck up. I felt perpetually confused and entangled in unconscious relationship dynamics, and yet I knew that there was something more. I had tasted glimpses of feeling alive and connected to something deeper and greater than myself. But I had no idea how to access that in my daily life or in my relationships. I fell so deeply in love with this work and have spent these years deep in study. I now teach and share the practices that supported me so much with my community.
Hi I’m Kamali! I found Charu over 10 years ago, at a time when I was craving deeper intimacy with my partner. We wanted totally different things from lovemaking, which left us both unsatisfied and unsure how to bridge that gap. Tantra has transformed my internal and external worlds. It stripped away everything in the way of experiencing deeper love in my life. I let go of my career as filmmaker and became a Tantra teacher, I let go of that previous relationship, and met my now husband in one of Charu’s retreats! (See article for a wedding pic where Charu was the officiant).
Ultimately, we all want more pleasure in our lives. Life can sometimes be repetitive and monotonous and we can often feel like everyone else is having exciting orgasms and a great sex life and we are left behind.
Most of us are caught in behaving in a way that is acceptable to our family and society, in a way that we were taught in order to fit in… the problem is, that in order to do this we have denied essential aspects of ourselves. This has EVERYTHING to do with how much pleasure you are experiencing.
If you are lucky enough to be having orgasms, often times, the orgasmic pleasure lasts for just a few seconds and then leaves us.
It is possible to not only experience more and extended pleasure in your body, it’s also possible to cultivate your ability to do this so it’s more likely to happen, more often in your body.