Some of you may know that today I celebrate four years with my incredible man! It is so amazing to share with a man so dynamically and fully. Of course, I credit Tantra for giving me the tools and the context for showing up and allowing the relationship to undo me, rather than make me smaller or box me in. I think there are a few major mistakes that we all make when it comes to relationship:
One thing is that we think relationship is there to make us happy... of course relationships can awaken us to joy and happiness, but anyone who has been in one knows that is not all there is to it.
In Tantra, it is thought that a Tantric relationship is one which specifically provokes old family dynamics and habitual responses. Within a conscious, Tantric relationship we are given the opportunity to meet those 'trigger points' head-on, learn how to stay present within them, and open to a new, perhaps unfamiliar way of showing up.
A way that is beyond 'trading needs' and that takes us into uncharted territory where I don't count on my partner to 'complete me' as we see in so many movies, I go deeper with my partner by honoring myself, knowing myself and loving beyond my fear of losing.
This requires great courage and when you show up for relationship in this way, it can be the greatest teacher, perhaps the only teacher you will ever need.
I am not the woman I was four years ago. Throughout this relationship I have become aware of some very limiting patterns that I have been ruled by for most of my life...because of my strong Tantric practice both before and during my relationship, I have broken through many layers that have kept true, authentic love at bay. I am consistently surprised by what is possible between two people and by the true beauty of man.
When relating is dynamic in this way, and nourished in a foundation of a deep honor and respect for yourself AND your partner, the honeymoon never ends. Every moment is a delicious surprise, you are consistently challenged and invited into new landscape. Passion, desire and absolute love live here.
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