Has asserting your needs become a way of avoiding intimacy?

It's been a whirlwind few weeks! Just last week I returned home from an adventure in the unknown with my Level 3 retreat. It was soooo wonderful to deep-dive with dedicated members of our community and so exciting to see the breakthroughs they are experiencing in Tantra continue to transform their lives.

This week I want to share with you a video I made about the problem with boundaries.

Don't get me wrong! Boundaries are essential for helping us to feel safe and stay open even in challenging situations. However, like most things that start out with the best of intentions, we can get attached to the concept that they represent and miss the true value.

Are your boundaries actually getting in the way of you experiencing deeper intimacy rather than allowing you to get closer?

You so need to watch this video if: 

  • You have spent years defining what works and does not work for you and yet, you still don't feel any closer to those you love.
  • You have experienced violation in your past and have needed boundaries to ensure your saftey and you are ready to go even deeper in your self-exploration.
  • Whenever you assert your boundaries with your partner (or family member) it just makes them more pissed off.
  • Even when your lover (or friend) honors your boundaries, you somehow don't feel closer to yourself or them.

This video brings us into advanced territory. It sheds a light on the spaces where we may be hiding, even as we think we are growing stronger.

Truly opening to love means consistently allowing ourselves to be available to the next step and growing beyond what has worked for us in the past.

I'd love to hear your thoughts once you watch this!

in love,


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Posted on February 4, 2014 .