Hi I’m Kamali! I found Charu over 10 years ago, at a time when I was craving deeper intimacy with my partner. We wanted totally different things from lovemaking, which left us both unsatisfied and unsure how to bridge that gap. Tantra has transformed my internal and external worlds. It stripped away everything in the way of experiencing deeper love in my life. I let go of my career as filmmaker and became a Tantra teacher, I let go of that previous relationship, and met my now husband in one of Charu’s retreats! (See below for a wedding pic where Charu was the officiant)
I’m passionate about sharing the Tantric path, because of the profound gifts it has brought to my life and those I have worked with. Today, I want to share with you about something I’m focusing on this year… NOURISHMENT.
It is my core desire, to feel, deeply nourished by my work, my marriage, my friendships, my spiritual practice, and the more mundane tasks of life. Nourishment is my north star right now in all that I am doing.
Nourishment may not sound as sexy as ‘Abundant’ or ‘Fearless’… it’s not bold or shiny, it’s practical. It’s literal definition is 'the food necessary for growth, health, and good condition.’
And if you expand the idea of food, to anything we consume, ingest, or receive into our bodies or beings…. then we are not just talking about eating your fruits and veggies.
We are talking about everything from social media habits, to the conversations we have, to how we walk, sit and breathe, can be nourishing or depleting.
Everything we interact with, and how we interact with it, can be nourishing or depleting. It can provide us with energy or take it, it can help us grow or harm us.
Focusing on what is nourishing us, is really a deep level of self-care.
So how do I plan to infuse all do and consume with Nourishment?
I’m always amazed at how full most people’s days are. We spend a lot of time racing from one meeting to the next, rushing to meet a deadline, willing the traffic in front of us to hurry up… Being in a hurry has become the norm, so much so that if we are not flooded with the adrenaline that this creates in us, we can feel like something is ‘missing' or ‘off’. Its easy to get compulsive about staying in a ‘doing’ and ‘rushing’ mode, because we feel productive. But it is possible to be productive without being in this state.
When we create more spaciousness in our lives by reducing what’s on our plate down to what’s truly necessary for the day, and building in transition time between activities.. we create more spaciousness in our bodies.
This space does some really important things like reduce anxiety. It helps us connect to what we are feeling in our bodies which gives us important information about what we need, and what is needed from us. It invites the tension in our bodies to unwind, gives us a moment to reconnect with our breath.
Slowing down is the precursor to relaxation, and when we are in a relaxed, restful state, our bodies can transition from the fight or flight mode many of us live in, to repair and regeneration which is where the nourishment is.
Other ways to create more space is to limit our screen time, there are helpful apps that allow us to see just how many hours in our week are spent on a screen, which is a good to keep track of. Many of us need to interact with screens for work, but there is a lot of additional use added from social media, tv watching, and gaming that we could reduce.
One of the side effects of too much screen time is the disconnection it creates with nature and other humans we are interacting with. There is so much nourishment available in intimate connections, both with nature and people and animals.
Slowing down will not have the same benefits if you are browsing on your phone, to create spaciousness we must get present to what is happening inside us and around us.
This is a bit different from dancing. Sensual movement is what I teach to my students, how to slow down and feel your body and your breath while you are in motion.
Sensual means we are connecting with our senses, touch, taste, sound, sight, smell… as you move your body what does the movement taste like? What emotions can you touch/feel? What sounds want to emerge from you? How does your breathing change? Does this change what you can smell? Does moving like this soften your gaze? Does it change how you are seeing?
If you don’t have a sensual movement practice, but want to explore this intuitively on your own, I recommend starting from stillness. Let your mind settle, connect with your breath and then deepen it while staying relaxed. Take a moment to scan your body, what are you feeling and where?
And then pick a part of your body to move slowly, listen for what feels good and follow the pleasure. Slow fluid movement. If you can’t feel ‘pleasure', look for sensations that are enjoyable. Let those sensations tell your body what movement comes next.You can explore this way, standing, or sitting, on hands and knees, or on your back…. follow your intuition and the enjoyment.
Moving our bodies in this way, is deeply nourishing. It powers down our fight or flight response, and engages our parasympathetic nervous system which allows us to regenerate and heal. It helps us release anxiety, tension, and stuck emotions, and grounds us in the present moment. It fills us up with energy and good feeling!
Self-Care has become quite a buzz word, but too often we are limiting our ideas of what self-care looks like to getting massages, or doing our hair and nails, drinking more water, or taking baths…. don’t get me wrong these things great!
And there is a deeper level of self-care available. One that helps us access the pleasure available in our bodies through our 5 senses. This is what I’m calling sensual self-care.
Practices like taking salt baths, oils massage, and self-pleasure, can all be amplified in their nourishing capacity when we engage our senses during them. Adding essential oils to our baths like rose and lavender. Anointing our joints and tissues with oil and mindful touch though a massage practice like abhyanga. Or using Yoni Eggs, Pleasure Wands, or your hands to explore and honor your sexual parts and engage your sexual energy. When you are enjoying a cup of tea, or eating a nutrient rich meal, take the time to take it in with your senses, give thanks for it.
And using sound for relaxation is another powerful sensual self-care practice. Particularly ingesting sounds attuned to healing frequencies, Kirtan or chanting, sound baths, or even music tuned to solfeggio frequencies can all help induce a theta state where the mind goes silent, and the body gets to unwind.
Play might feel like the opposite of productivity, but it is deeply nourishing actually enhances brain and body function.
The kind of play that does this is intuitive and explorative.
So have a spontaneous dance party, set up playdates with friends and intimate partners, engage your inner artist with clay or color pencils, explore things you are curious about…
Because play is not something that has to be done, the best way to make sure it happens is to put playdates in your calendar. Times that are specifically set aside for this kind of nourishment.
If you are inspired to bring more nourishment into your daily life, pick one or two things that you will bring into your life. Start small, be gentle and keep your heart open.
Best of luck!
Kamali's passionate about helping people restore connection where it has gone missing. Both in their relationships and their bodies. She offers this transformation through simple movement, meditation and self-awareness practices, which come from her knowledge of Tantra, Taoism, Yoga, Meditation, Reiki, and Art. Through her guidance clients have healed from heartbreak, released shame and trauma, and learned how to have more sensual, honest, connected relationships. After a 15 yr career in entertainment, Kamali took the leap from life-long practitioner to teaching and coaching. She has learned from a number of gifted spiritual teachers along the way. She did her Tantra teacher training with Embody Tantra, her 200hr Yoga Training with Shivakali Yoga, is a certified Sacred Feminine facilitator through Tao Tantric Arts and the Universal Tao, and is a trained Reiki Master. Find Kamali at her website: www.SpaceForLove.com OR insta: www.instagram.com/wearespaceforlove/
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P.S. Here is the wedding pic as promised!