Posts filed under Women's sexuality

Now that's what a penis was made for...

I'm standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth in my short-denim skirt which is all wrong for how cold it is- even inside the house. I put it on because I know Martin loves it and we are about to have time to connect and make-love this morning. We've had a rough couple of days and I thought I would make an extra effort.

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VIDEO: How To Have An Orgasm the Moment He Enters You

Women, let’s be honest. It can become almost stressful to think about orgasm. Did I have one? Should I fake since it’s not happening? Why isn’t he doing that thing that works for me?  What if you could shift this? What if you could step out of that powerless feeling of wondering if your body will do what you want it to and if he will do what works for you?

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What is Tantric Orgasm?

There are so many rumors floating around when it comes to orgasm and Tantra... orgasm for hours, orgasm without ejaculating, full-body orgasm, etc. In this article I am going to attempt to shed some light on the truth behind the rumors.

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To Every Woman Who Has Loved A Man Who 'Could Not Get It Up'...

Recently I had a conversation with a beautiful client of mine. She is a very powerful, conscious woman who is devoted to her spiritual path and is now in a rich and powerful partnership with a man she loves. Everything in their relationship is rich and in alignment. Their visions, intentions, goals, work, priorities.... only thing off is the sex.

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Giving it up...

What an amazing weekend.  I shared the work I love so much in a two day workshop. After the workshop ended, I felt something new open up inside of me.  I felt warm and open and vibrant.  When my Love and I got home we made love and it had a new and dynamic playfulness and passion.  I allowed myself to enjoy him and delight in his body.  I feel like for some reason every so often I don't let myself have all the pleasure that is avaialble because on some level I am busy holding a grudge on man or living in fear that if I truly surrender to this I have somehow lost the upper hand.  I don't know exactly what I am fighting for, perhaps it is just an age-old power struggle.

What I will say is this, life is so much sweeter, lovemaking is so much sweeter, my relationship is so much richer when I give it up.  Give up trying to be right, give up carefully controlling how much love I express in any given moment, give up holding back, give up protecting myself.

As I gave up last night I felt my body open.  I let my Beloved touch me so deeply that it scared me.  I felt an ache inside of me that his penetrating seemed to aggravate...and still I surrendered.  And somehow magically, my body opened up and I allowed him to uncover this long lost part of me.

It is tender, it is raw.  It is the unknown place... where I am not a teacher, not a lover, I cannot be defined.  I don't know myself.  The place where I simply 'am'.  And then I don't have to worry about any 'Tantric Technique' or how to 'get it right' or how to 'be a good person' or 'seek enlightenment' or even how to achieve multiple orgasms... in this moment of presence those ideas and stories have no space to survive...

P.S. Want some help integrating Tantra into your life?  Come and check out our BIG EVENT Evening of Awakening this Saturday 7-11pm in Santa Monica, CA http://eveningofawakening.com

P.P.S. Not local to LA, but you want to get started from home?  Check out my new home-study course for women http://awakentoyourbody.com

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

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Beyond Clitoral Orgasms...

My Story of Re-Sensitizing my Vagina:

I was one of those women who, once I figured out how to have a clitoral orgasm (not until I was about 14 AND it was my boyfriend who encouraged me to touch myself…I said, ‘no, it will only feel good to me if you touch me’… where did I get that idea?)  Once I did figure out how to pleasure myself and how fucking great it was, I practically made a career out of it.  Thus, it was very easy for me to experience orgasm via my clitoris.

Up until about 4 years ago when my beloved and I got together, I had rarely, if ever, experienced vaginal orgasm, although I had begun to experience ‘full body orgasm’ through my Tantra practice without any stimulation from outside of me at all, simply from practicing the simplest meditations.

So, I was beginning to explore my body in new ways and I was curious and confused about why I was not very sensitive on the inside of my vagina.

When I got together with my love, I told him, ‘let’s try something new, I would like you to steer clear of my clitoris and I will too…I want to see what else I am feeling when you are making love with me’.  This was a great decision and we did it for more than a year.

What opened up inside of me was amazing.  I began to become more and more aware of the sensations in my vagina and within days…literally (now remember, I already had a developed Tantra practice, I was ripe for this) I was experiencing vaginal orgasm in many different ways.  As time went on, I began to experience waves of orgasm almost throughout the duration of our lovemaking, I learned how to relax into the waves until I was able to drop into TOTAL presence.  A feeling as if I was sitting in the bindu (center) point of orgasm, orgasm was expansive and never-ending rather than intense and explosive.  I also began to become so sensitive to him, and him to me, that I could feel and ride the waves of orgasm within his body, I even began to experience orgasm the moment he entered me, a wash of union… and this feeling would run through his body and mine together.

Now, that I have become more sensitive to all of the sensations, I bring in my clitoris when it feels right.  It is far less often than before and in many ways less interesting.  I share this with you because what I have discovered is AMAZING and possible for every woman.  The best part is that I don’t for a moment believe that I have discovered everything.  I continue to expand and I can’t wait to discover even more of what is possible in my own body and with my beloved.

Diana Richardson speaks at length about re-sensitizing in her book, ‘Tantric Orgasm for Women’. This book was a huge part of me learning to trust the natural intuitions that I had, even though many of them were in direct conflict with what I had learned through cosmopolitan magazine and how I had come to define myself sexually.

Are you ready to begin your tantric journey?

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Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

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Hidden Behind Your Conditioned Behavior is the Best Orgasm You Have Ever Had

So much of how we are showing up sexually has been implanted by ideas from our friends, magazines, society.  So little of it is coming from within.  In fact, most of us have no idea how we would behave sexually if we had not been guided by these external forces.  Everything from the idea of what an orgasm should look like, to how often we should have them, to what our lover should do to give them to us, to how big or hard their penis should be or what is the best shape for her breasts. What I have found is that actually what I have truly been craving sexually, what some small part of me deep inside has been calling for, was actually almost completely different than what I thought I wanted and how I was operating sexually.

For example, I used to be very attached to my explosive clitoral orgasm and I would often get into patterns with the men I was with where I would basically demand that they go down on me and bring me to an orgasm before I took them inside of me.  It was always ‘my turn first’ as it were, and I considered myself to be lucky to have partners who were willing to 'make sure that I was satisfied'...

As I began to become more in tune with the messages in my body, that began to feel less authentic and I found myself opening up in different ways… I even noticed when I did follow that old pattern, I would become wet, but in some ways my vagina would be tight when I took my lover inside of me, rather than warm and open and receptive.  I noticed that it was when my lover paid attention to my breasts that my vagina would actually become totally receptive so that when I did take him inside of me, I was sensitive to him and I felt like I was inviting him in to a rich landscape.  My vagina would become so sensitive in fact, that I ultimately became orgasmic from the moment he entered my body.

This was a huge shift and it came not only from allowing myself to listen to the messages of my body, but also from giving myself permission to do it differently.  The book Tantric Orgasm for Women played a huge part in me discovering that I was not alone in this and reading it helped me to give myself permission to try things radically differently and say 'yes' to the voice inside of me.

Again, it is when we begin to truly connect within that we are able to hear these messages that we have overridden for most of our lives.

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide. Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses. If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

Upcoming Events with Charu

Beginner Tantra for Couples

Sunday August 9th 6pm . Culver City $100 per couple / $75 when you register before July 26th click here to register: http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

Evening of Awakening . Puja Ritual Saturday August 15th 7-11pm $60 per person / $50 if registered before Aug 1st click here to learn more & register http://eveningofawakening.blogspot.com/

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The Secret to Great Sex

It has become clear to me that no matter what the exact issue that brings a client through my door, everyone is grasping for the secret to having a deeply fulfilling experience in lovemaking. People often want to believe or are searching out a technique that, once learned will finally satisfy their partner and transform their experience.

...and there are some techniques out there that are interesting and worth exploring, but the big secret is that great sex does not come from learning something you can 'do' differently.  It comes from how intimate you are with yourself.

Our culture has little tolerance for dedicating any time or energy to fully experiencing our bodies because we have become so result oriented.  God forbid we step away from our computer and the possibility of accomplishing one more thing, in order to nourish ourselves!

If we do take the time to nourish ourselves, it comes in the form of a spa treatment, a nice meal out, a ball-game, a Yoga class, etc.  And all of these things are WONDERFUL!  But how many of them really turn you on?  I mean how much of your life touches you in your sex?  Seriously, take a moment to think about it.  When you are not engaged in having sex what percentage of your life are you experiencing the wholeness of yourself including your sexuality?

...I thought so.  Way too little.

The worst part is that we have almost no experience of the potential of our bodies, no relationship to our own sexuality (other than a few goal-oriented masturbation sessions), and yet, we expect our partner to be able to satisfy us and take us to new heights... and if they can't, we whisper about it to our friends and long for our partner to change.

The good news is that getting in touch with your body and your sexuality is EASY.  Yes, it is.  Whew!  All it takes is a curiosity, an investment in those possibilities that you feel within you, but often don't listen to.

Try this:

Take the time for a walk in the park or on the beach, while you are there, take a moment to pause and be silent.  Allow yourself to notice what you feel through each sense in your body.  What do you smell?  How does the air feel when it touches your skin?  What colors and shapes do you see?  Sounds do you hear?  Allow yourself to truly absorb all of the sensations of the moment and through this begin to discover something new inside yourself and your relationship to all things.

"All around you, in every moment, The world is offering a feast for your senses.  Songs are playing, tasty food is on the table, Fragrances are in the air, Colors fill the eyes with light.

You who long for union, Attend this banquet with loving focus.  The outer and the inner worlds open to each other..."

~Vighyan Bhirav Tantra as translated by Lorin Roche Ph.D. http://lorinroche.com/

It is so simple that it is almost deceptive because we are not accustomed to allowing life to be simple.

And it is from this place of truly feeling ourselves in a new way, and coming into intimate contact with the world within and without that the great secret to lovemaking is revealed: attunement.

Yup.  No special technique, no following steps 1,2,3 and boom!  As you become more intimate with yourself you will naturally become more intimate with the world.  As you become more intimate with the world you will begin to notice how to simply allow yourself to come into an attunement with this moment in your body.  As you attune to the moment, you become more sensitive to, and can easily attune to your partner.  It is from this place that true lovemaking happens.

As you become more and more sensitive, you will even begin to 'hear' what your partners body is telling you.  A longing for a caress here, an invitation for a deeper more vigorous movement, a call to slow down, and so on.  You become one of those rare people that you have heard of in the myths that friends have told you about that past lover who just magically knew what to do, how to touch and who drove them wild.

You can only become aware of these responses in your partner, you can only come into this level of attunement when you have an intimate relationship with yourself.

In many ways you will practice this attunement in every moment of your life.  Life becomes your greatest lover, even just the breath moving in and out of the body is recognized as the sweet pleasure that it is, and sharing with another human being is a delicious expression of this loving.

Want to use this article? You can as long as you include the following: Charu Morgan has dedicated her life to Tantra. Over the past 10 years she has studied and shared Tantra worldwide.  Best-known for her candid Memoirs of a Tantrika blog and her down-to-earth approach, she is committed to educating modern minds on the ancient secrets of Tantra through coaching, events & home-study courses.  If you would like to discover how Tantra can Transform your life, register online for the Memoirs of a Tantrika weekly ezine at www.embodytantra.com and receive your free audio report Better Sex, Richer Life through Tantra.

Upcoming Events with Charu

Beginner Tantra for Couples

Sunday August 9th 6pm . Culver City
$100 per couple / $75 when you register before July 26th click here to register:

Evening of Awakening . Puja Ritual

Saturday August 15th 7-11pm $60 per person / $50 if registered before Aug 1st
click here to learn more & register http://eveningofawakening.blogspot.com/

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How to Unlock Your Potential for Pleasure

FREE Teleclass for Women

When: Friday, July 10th 1pm PST/ 2pm MST/ 4pm EST

How to Unlock Your Potential for Pleasure OVERNIGHT and Re-discover Richness & Passion in Your Relationship to Yourself, Your Loved Ones & Your Life!

As many of you know, I have dedicated my life to the study and practice of Tantra. I have seen the Tantric practices simply, almost magically transform the lives and relationships of many, many people. You will learn the tools that have been practiced for thousands of years to simply and effectively tune into the deep wisdom of the body and effortlessly allow that wisdom to become a guiding force in your life. On the 75-minute call, you’ll discover:

* The exact tools you can use immediately to clear blocks in your body and awaken a flow of orgasmic energy accessible to you in EVERY moment….in just one Tantra session I have seen these tools; save couples relationships, free women from pain or numbness during intercourse, shift body-image issues, and literally awaken the beauty in every woman I have shared them with.

* How these practices will easily break through deep-rooted habitual patterns – in a way that will integrate shifts and changes into your life immediately – something that many therapists & healers are unaware of

* How to uncover an inner wisdom that has been all but lost in our modern culture. Yes, right now you have untapped information you aren’t even aware of…After this call, you’ll know what reveals this wisdom and how to live with ease, heal your body and have better sex by ‘tuning in’ to it.

* How to move beyond your limited experience of pleasure. Even if you are sexually savvy or you are having great sex, what is possible within your body is rarely understood or experienced in our modern times

* The very best part of unlocking your potential for pleasure has very little to do with the great sex you will be having- that is the gravy – the best part is the fulfillment, the confidence, the aliveness and the love you experience within yourself

In love, Charu

How to Register

Space is limited for the “How to Unlock Your Potential for Pleasure OVERNIGHT and Re-discover Richness & Passion in Your Relationship to Yourself, Your Loved Ones & Your Life!” teleseminar so register by clicking this link now:

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PS– This call could be a turning point in your life – the moment you release who you think you should be and wake up to the woman that you are.

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Tantra, Break-ups & FREE Stuff... Oh My!

Exciting news! I have been working with my dear friend Lisa Steadman, relationship coach extraordinaire and best selling author, to create some special courses specifically looking at how Tantra can support women who are experiencing a breakup. It was an immediate 'click' for us to work together because of how powerful Tantric meditation can be to support you in creating a strong, loving and authentic relationship with yourself, which is a key part of the process when experiencing a broken heart. Together Lisa and I created a special teleclass 'How to Heal Your Heart with Tantra'. Discover how tantra can heal your heart and ease any post-breakup burdens lingering in your body. In this audio interview, I explain what Tantra is, why it can help you and teach a simple exercise using guided meditation, breath and movement techniques to help you re-discover the wisdom of the body and uncover deeper and deeper levels of forgiveness, healing, and peace.

The best part is that you can have this audio class for FREE! Hooray!

Here's how:

Lisa has a brand new book coming out today that will seriously rock your world if you're going through a breakup or struggling to heal and move on from past heartbreak. She is offering her brand new workbook along with a bundle of incredible bonus gifts (including How to Heal Your Heart with Tantra) worth 100 times the investment -- and you can have it ALL for less than $16!

But to get the workbook AND bonus gifts, you must act now. She's only making this offer for the first 24 hours.

To get all the juicy details, go here:

www.itsabreakupnotabreakdownworkbook.com

Thank you all so much for your support as Embody Tantra grows and expands! Of course, Tantra is good for a lot more than just helping you through a breakup... let us know what is coming up in your life and areas where you would like to learn more about how Tantra can support you!

Why not start by attending one of this month's upcoming Tantra events? (see below for details)

in love,

Charu

'The Longing Puja'

May Tantra Puja Ritual Saturday May 16th 6-10pm (singles and couples welcome) $60 per person/ $50 if you register before MIDNIGHT TONIGHT! click here to register http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=3521066

What is a Tantra Puja?

A Puja is a prayer. In Tantra, our prayer is recognizing the divine in every human being, our temple is the body. In a Puja ritual each man will have the opportunity to partner with each woman for a simple exercise or meditation. The Tantric meditations use breath, movement, sound, and guided meditation to enrich each meeting throughout the ceremony. Attending Couples may choose to work solely with each other. *there is no nudity or sexual contact in the class

'The Pathway to Conscious Relationship & Lovemaking'

*a special teleclass for women

Many of us have never been made love to in the way that we intuitively know is possible. We assume that our lover should be able to show us the way...

Sadly, because of this we often find ourselves with lovers who can only meet us where we are at emotionally, mentally & physically and we never experience what lies beyond our personal decided limitations. In order to receive what we are truly longing for in a partnership and to experience the kind of lovemaking that is deeply nourishing and bonding we need to begin to create that pathway within ourselves first.

Join Charu on this special Tele-class where you will be guided into a deep meditation where to meet your own inner-lover and begin to discover the true potential that lovemaking holds as a tool for healing and transformation. The best part is that by practicing this meditation, not only are you creating a space to be met by the lover of your dreams, but you are also learning to love and embrace yourself in such a way that ultimately all neediness dissolves.

You will discover a feeling of completeness and an experience of pleasure from within. From this place, you are empowered to choose a partner who can truly show up for you rather than accepting scraps from those who cannot truly see or appreciate who you are.

May 18th 7-8pm

*Don't worry if you can't make it to the LIVE teleseminar / everyone who registers will receive a recording of the meditation to practice with! $59.97 / Register by WEDNESDAY for $29.95 click here to register http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4337539 be one of the first 10 to register and receive: *FREE 20 Minute Phone Consultation with Charu ($42 value)

Beginner Tantra for Couples

June 11th 7pm-9:30pm $100 per couple/ $75 when registered before MAY 21st click here to register

http://embodytantra.ecrater.com/product.php?pid=4317052

Honor your partnership by spending a special evening connecting and sharing your deep gratitude and love for one another.

Not only will 'Beginner Tantra for Couples' class be more adventurous than your typical dinner and a movie...it also has the power to change the dynamic of your relationship, giving you all of the tools you need to begin to approach lovemaking and all aspects of your relating in a new and 'tantric' way. In a long-term relationship it can be difficult to make sure that you are consistently nourishing your love, connection and sex-life...

Beginner Tantra for Couples offers a different Tantric meditation experience each month so you can effortlessly add a new dimension to your relating on a monthly basis. By attending 'Beginner Tantra for Couples/ Redefining Orgasm' you are taking an important step towards transforming your sex life, and perhaps even more importantly, you are taking a step towards an intimacy that few couples allow themselves to experience. This intimacy shifts the texture of everything you do in life and allows you to experience what you have truly been longing for in partnership.

This class is literally a step-by-step guide to support you in learning how to: * free blocks in your own body that are hindering your capacity for pleasure * deeply and intimately connect with your partner in totally 'out of the box' (no pun intended) ways * learn a simple ritual that will connect you and your partner on a completely new level....one that can immediately be put into practice when you make love Looking forward to seeing you there!

in love,

Charu

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