I see men make this mistake ALL THE TIME. It's super-simple to shift and it can make a huge difference.
Most men miss this elementary step and it can ruin countless opportunities to connect more deeply. A deep connection that a woman can trust is essential for you to create great lovemaking together.
You know that moment when you're kissing and cuddling or deep into foreplay and something just goes sour? Maybe you can tell that your partner isn't really 'here' with you or you're worrying about not being aroused or thoughts wander to your 'to do' list or even to that episode of Game of Thrones. Once you notice something is off, you have a couple of choices; get offended and shut down, just decide it's not the right time or keep going pretending nothing is wrong...
Men, as so many of you know, and may be experiencing first hand, many women 'fake it' in bed, can't have orgasms or are simply unsatisfied by the sex they are having ~ and maybe don't even want to have it at all.
The current culture hasn't made it easy for you to know what women really want.
We have been sold so many concepts about love and light and being loving in every moment, to every person... unfortunately, when this idea isn't understood or integrated we become even more disconnected. Learning a 'behavior' that indicates we are loving, rather than actually being loving or experiencing love.
The truth about our capacity to experience more love is complex.
Most men have no idea how to create the space where a woman can rest into what is awakening for her sexually, to allow her to go beyond who she thinks she is supposed to be and open up to something totally new.
Have you ever had your heart broken by a teacher?
It goes something like this: you found someone inspiring, resonated with their message, and got incredibly excited about the possibilities for enlightenment and growth! Then, somewhere along the way, they said something that you didn’t agree with or made you incredibly uncomfortable. Or worse yet, you found out that there was some not-so-spiritual behavior going on behind the scenes.
This is video #2 in our 'How to be the best lover she has ever had' series.
She wants to experience pleasure, she wants to be wild and raw with you, but she may need some help getting there.
In this video I share a technique that is easy for you AND that will open new doorways for you.
I've never met a woman who didn't like this. It's foolproof and easy to do.
I'm standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth in my short-denim skirt which is all wrong for how cold it is- even inside the house. I put it on because I know Martin loves it and we are about to have time to connect and make-love this morning. We've had a rough couple of days and I thought I would make an extra effort.
Men: This is the first video in a series of tips for you to become the best lover she has ever had. This first tip is probably the most important one that I will share. Even if you have been a student of sexuality, even if you have asked every woman you have made love to what it is she truly wants... this simple tip may still have eluded you.
...and it's the MOST IMPORTANT step in becoming a great lover that she will continue to open to more and more deeply, over years and years together.
Women, let’s be honest. It can become almost stressful to think about orgasm. Did I have one? Should I fake since it’s not happening? Why isn’t he doing that thing that works for me? What if you could shift this? What if you could step out of that powerless feeling of wondering if your body will do what you want it to and if he will do what works for you?