I was working with a couple recently who had been fighting and feeling disconnected. They wanted to talk to work out the details of the challenges they have been having...and they wanted to learn techniques that would make sex better for both of them.
I’ve had a challenging week. I’ve been on edge and having strong mood swings. My behavior has created distance between my sweetheart and I...
Imagine You're In One Of Those Uncomfortable Situations... You know that feeling, that shameful feeling when someone you love is angry with you, triggered by something you’ve done. Your body turns rigid, maybe gets hot or cold, your jaw gets tight...sometimes you are even holding back tears.
They have misunderstood you. It’s not your fault. You were doing your best…
You know that moment when you're kissing and cuddling or deep into foreplay and something just goes sour? Maybe you can tell that your partner isn't really 'here' with you or you're worrying about not being aroused or thoughts wander to your 'to do' list or even to that episode of Game of Thrones. Once you notice something is off, you have a couple of choices; get offended and shut down, just decide it's not the right time or keep going pretending nothing is wrong...
I'm standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth in my short-denim skirt which is all wrong for how cold it is- even inside the house. I put it on because I know Martin loves it and we are about to have time to connect and make-love this morning. We've had a rough couple of days and I thought I would make an extra effort.
Often, even in a relationship that seems practically perfect, we can come up against that one big issue that seems like it could tear the whole thing apart. How can we find a way to dance with these big issues and open ourselves to the deeper lessons they have to offer us?
It's not brain-surgery. We were made for relating, for loving. Having said that, this modern world and the demands it seems to make of us, often leaves relationship as the very last thing to be nourished.
Often when we are seeking out answers around our sexual challenges we are led to things that can feel disconnected.
The other day I got a BIG wake-up call. Martin and I were receiving support around our challenges (FYI common relationship mistake #1: thinking you have to do this alone... having someone hold the space for you to break through and go deeper is such a relief and at times a necessity ~ it does not make you weak).
I wrote this immediately after an awakening I experienced this week. I am literally so full from the movement in my life that I think I have 4 articles in the works to share with you about it all.