It's been a while since I've connected with you and there is so much to share. Ever since I spoke to you all about shifting the structure of Embody Tantra, I have been behind the scenes continuing to share with the community and completing programs that were already scheduled!
This week all of our teachers in training are teaching their first self-produced practice class. Each of these trainers have been devoted students and practitioners for many years with me and I am so excited for them to take this next step!
I stumbled onto the Tantric path at a time when I was craving a deeper intimacy with my partner.
We had been together for 5 years and while we were still in love, I was not always feeling that love present in our lovemaking. We had fallen into patterns and ways of connecting that allowed us to do life together, but left me with a longing I couldn’t name.
We have been sold so many concepts about love and light and being loving in every moment, to every person... unfortunately, when this idea isn't understood or integrated we become even more disconnected. Learning a 'behavior' that indicates we are loving, rather than actually being loving or experiencing love.
The truth about our capacity to experience more love is complex.
I'm standing in the bathroom brushing my teeth in my short-denim skirt which is all wrong for how cold it is- even inside the house. I put it on because I know Martin loves it and we are about to have time to connect and make-love this morning. We've had a rough couple of days and I thought I would make an extra effort.
Men: This is the first video in a series of tips for you to become the best lover she has ever had. This first tip is probably the most important one that I will share. Even if you have been a student of sexuality, even if you have asked every woman you have made love to what it is she truly wants... this simple tip may still have eluded you.
...and it's the MOST IMPORTANT step in becoming a great lover that she will continue to open to more and more deeply, over years and years together.
Whether we like it and buy into it or not, we have been served a dream of what our lives should be like since we were young. And no matter what we consciously think about that dream, the programming is there. The great 'American Dream' is something else, it was dreamed up long ago and has since been painted in a light that no one's life can live up to. The more we compare ourselves against this dream, the less available we are to the beauty that is present in our lives.
There is a terrific disconnect when it comes to some of the information out there that we have received from our favorite spiritual teachers. In fact, some of the messages we have been working so hard to integrate into our lives may actually have you fighting against your nature and making you sick- rather than healing and liberating you.
“This year, invite the new year in with a sacred Tantric Ceremony. Ignite the aliveness of the last few hours of the year by discovering new ways of meeting yourself intimately. Where have you held back this year? What were the greatest moments of experiencing the depths of your loving, the agony of your hate? What are you longing for as you enter into this new year?”
This is the pathway to beginning to allow ourselves to love and be loved, to touch and be touched in the way we have longed for most. A deeply authentic connection that seems to be always just out of reach in our daily lives is hidden, woven into the present moment.”